Hello,
I inspire myself from this post by Chrono, as a way to deliver myself from a heavy problem about moderation of a forum (to give some precisions, I am currently moderating a French speaking medical forum. I give this precision because if I don't give it, I may see from there that questions like "Are you talking about the moderating team of the MPlus! community forum ?" will arising. So I reply right from the beginning : no !).
Despite the post written by Chrono is located in the "Forum & Website" section, this topic fits more in the General Chit Chat. No offense Chrono !

To be honest, I am really tired of moderating the medical where I am a moderator. I am so tired and freak out that I need to take antihistamine to get some sleep, otherwise I would never sleep.
I'm not tired of the forum topic. Health is a such wonderful subject, involving everything I love : languages and transcultural, Internet, mental health (there is even a discipline called ethnopsychiatry, but I won't risk myself to give a lecture about it). It's such a endless field, not only about medical technic, but moreover about translating (for example, I started to write a translation analysis about translating into French the expression "Online Patient Helper", and I was analyzing what is the difference between a moderator and an Online Patient Helper). It's really so fascinating trying to understand the relationship between health and languages, and broadly the human being.
I'm tired of this feeling of being ill-treated by the administration and moderation staff. Since the beginning, I feel treated worse than a dog (even a dog won't be treated like that). At the beginning, it was only one of the administrator, but in the meantime, she has left (she is still a member of the staff, but she doesn't post any more as a staff member). Now, it's much more insidious than that : I have the bad feeling that I say one word, I make one thing, I am automatically disqualified and brought in front of a penal Court. I receive no praise, no kind word for my work, I receive only or no answer, or I receive only criticism, which is neither always justified nor purpose any solution to solve the arisen problems.
If someone else in the team makes a mistake, the other person will never be treated worse than a dog, or nobody will say nothing. For all these reasons I exposed, I feel treated unfairly and like I am walked all over me.

I feel that matters are getting worse since I have been diagnosed for ADHD since December 2008, it has been confirmed by another specialist in January 2009 and I have started to be treated for this pathology during this period. Another hypothesis to explain the matter is because I am the youngest in the staff. But I have no irrefutable evidences, only some clues (I have started to be involved in this project in February 2005, I was at this time 19 years old).
But whatever the reason, there is no acceptable excuse to be treated worse than a dog.

The worst fact in all this story is that a person in the staff doesn't like someone, this someone will be automatically treated like a dog. The legal responsible of the site permits himself once to insult another member in public.

Making some personal computer settings was a good way to escape a bit from this terribly heavy problem, however, it doesn't solve the pending issue. I have tried the solution not to come for a period, but the problem remained the same, and maybe even worsened.
I have no reason to volunteer in such a project which requests a lot of giving from yourself as a person to correctly manage the section I have been assigned to manage. I don't expect to be always congratulated by everybody, and I study any idea which comes from members or staff to improve what I am doing. But I don't accept being treated like a punching ball by the staff members, and not by anybody else.
I expect to be spoken with respect, even if we disagree each other. I expect from people to be honest in their manners and in their thoughts (for example, not reproach to someone else something we do or we have done without any reproach by anybody else).

Am I asking too much from myself and from the others ? Am I right to feel tired and disgusted with all these troubles, at the point to start damaging my own physical and mental health ?
What did I deserve to be treated like that ?
Is there any solution to start taking the path to solve this problem ?


Sorry guys for these long writing reams, but I am at the point to receive help from other people, and not only by the medical caregivers and my mother....



Thanks in advance for your replies

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Originally posted by Giulia
Is there any solution to start taking the path to solve this problem ?

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Originally posted by Giulia
Am I asking too much from myself and from the others ?

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Originally posted by Giulia
Am I right to feel tired and disgusted with all these troubles, at the point to start damaging my own physical and mental health ?

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Hi Chrono,

Thanks for your feedback which is the first step to find a way to solve this huge issue.
I globally agree with the analysis you make, but I have to quibble on points of your overall analysis.

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Originally posted by Chrono

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Originally posted by Giulia
Is there any solution to start taking the path to solve this problem ?

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yes, you should start by posting this same message in whatever private forums you have in your community . This is not the kind of problem that should be known by everyone in a community, but you do need to tell the other members of the staff how you feel in order to solve the problem. Either that or leave the forums for your own sake.

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Originally posted by Chrono

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Originally posted by Giulia
Am I asking too much from myself and from the others ?

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It's sometimes hard to understand for regular members why people take these matters in such a personal way. But it's true that when you've been part of the community/staff for a long time (7 years in my case), you start to feel like this is an online "family" . And you expect it to be a great place where to spend/waste your time, even when you have almost no free time, like me . You should've realized by now, though, that that's just YOUR way to see through things. There may be others who dont really care about the place, they just want a place where to show up once in a while (and that's not a bad thing at all, most members will feel that way).

i think you're expecting too much from them. You said other members of the staff treat you bad. Well, go and ask them if they have a problem with something you've been doing. Asking directly is the easiest way to solve this kind of issues. Oh and btw, you should NEVER take what people say on the internet too seriously. The fact that you are having health problems due to those forums makes me think that you should either quit the community or learn that what they tell you on the internet is just that: words from people that dont really know you and that shouldn't be affecting your'real' life.

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Originally posted by Giulia
Am I right to feel tired and disgusted with all these troubles, at the point to start damaging my own physical and mental health ?

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As i already said, you shouldnt let something that happened on the internet hurt you. Learn the difference between the real world and the online world. People online are usually more rude, which doesnt necessarily mean they dont like you. Again, go and ask them directly about it.

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Hi,

First of all, I want to thank Chrono for his analysis, even if I don't agree on all points of the problem.
However, it's the first time since the getting worse of this story that I was able to sleep without any kind of med.
The story gets clearer, and I moved one step forward at the time to solve this issue.

I'd like to give some pieces of news about this story.

I phoned to a French association Forum des droits sur Internet, which spreads about law on the Internet.
They couldn't totally solve my problem, but they confirmed what I think right from the beginning : I have no other solution than a legal action, since I have already done what I could do legally alone.
Now, the legal action is the only solution to advocate and protect my rights.

Since legal matters are recurrent on the forum, I have to be extremely careful if I don't want to be more into troubles.
The association advised me to write a registered letter with recorded delivery, but the only reservation I can make is that I don't want him to have my home address.
I really don't know what he is able to do if he wants to put me into troubles, I have lost any kind of trust toward him since this hypothesis of diagnosis. This hypothesis of diagnosis has been the last straw for me.
I really don't know what he is able to do if he wants to make me problems after an action.
One of the moderator on the psycho's forum has been threaten from an association's president (independent of the forum) to publicize her home address on the Internet.
Since it's a possible issue, I prefer to be extremely careful with this problem. I clearly don't want to risk that he comes to my home to make troubles to myself and my family.
So I have to contact an association to have legal advice about what to do, but that's for sure, I have to provide a legal action for me and other people.

Hello,

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Originally posted by nimicitor
Why don't you just leave the forum you are having problems with and join a new one?
Or you could create your own and then you get to decide what happens in it.

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