if you don't want to read this long text, I'm asking for 2 features here: detecting if someone opens and closes a conversation window and mark contacts that are not in your reverse list (=kicked you out of their list, or not added you yet)
Amsn (http://amsn.sourceforge.net) has a good feature.
If someone opens a conversation window with you, or adds you to another conversation, the conversation window opens (so you know the contact has opened a window and if you see other people in the conversation you know you are added to a mass conversation, even if nothing is said in the conversation)
and you see a message: "(nickname) has opened a connection" in the conversation window
when he closes the window, you see a message: "(nickname) has closed the connection" in the conversation window.
after some minutes of inactivity a conversation automatically closes and you see a message in the conversation window: "connection has been closed due inactivity"
when the contact re-opens the window you see the message "(nickname) has opened a connection" again, etc...
because amsn is so instabile and has difficulties with avatars it would be very good if plus! uses that feature too.
another good feature of amsn: when a contact is not in your reverse list it appears on the main amsn screen (with an image before the nick of the contact now, but in earlier versions the nickname of the contact appears in pink)
it would also be good if plus! also indicated who's not in your reverse list
(a contact that is not in your reverse list doesn't have you in their contact list)
please don't reply of using dmsn because I don't like that program very much (it takes too much memory and cpu)
I want it in the regular msn messenger (with plus!)
if there is another plugin for msn messenger that has one of the 2 features mentioned, please mention them, thanks
(btw: I have a bad feeling I used bad english, sorry for that)