Fix
Delete you handshaking policy cache:
1. Exit Messenger completely (this means right clicking the Messenger tray icon and choosing Exit).
2. Open your registry editor (Start > Run > regedit.exe) and navigate to:
for Messenger 8.0: HKCU\Software\Microsoft\MSNMessenger
for Messenger 8.1: HKCU\Software\Microsoft\WindowsLive\CommunicationsClient
3. Once there, you must remove the following subkeys:
for Messenger 8.0: Policies
for Messenger 8.1: Shared
4. Close your registry editor and restart Messenger.
IT WORKS!!! THANKS THANKS THANKS