Well, it must be my version then. I don't have the web cam icon on the main contact list window even when I am signed in. However, its kind of funny actually, just yesterday when my BF came on, and messenger recognized that there was a contact available, when i opened up a chat window with him, then the cam icon showed up. I also saw that you can start a video call from the menu under contact. So I was worried for nothing. Yes feel a bit silly now