If I understand you correctly, you're looking for an open/closed window notifier. Unfortunately such notifiers don't actually work anymore. Here is a post containing lots of info and links to further discussions.
right lets try again lol its like when say u are offline and someone signs in and u click on there window it tells u someone has opened a window with u but they aint said nothin yet. its sort of like a spy thing so u can see who opens a window with u without sayin a word. that better ?
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