if someone still has you on their contact list?

Reason I ask is I deleted a friend of mine to test something out, when she went to go check to see which contacts still had her, i apparently still had her on my list. it wasn't until i deleted her off my 'non-instant messaging contacts' list did I appear on her list of people that had her on their contact list.

So really my question is if there's a way of finding out if someone has deleted you off their "instant messaging contact" list?

Sorry if this topic has been done to death

easy...

Tools -> Options -> Privacy -> "See who has added you to their list" and there is a view button which can be pressed. It is this information that the Contact Clean-up feature in Messenger Plus! Live depends on, and in particular the "Has You" part.

we did that!
but I still was on that list...like i said it wasn't until i deleted her off my "non-instant messaging contacts" list that I no longer appeared on that list!

If they are in the non-instant messaging area then they are still on the contact list.  You can't find out the "instant messaging contact" by themselves, this is a privacy thing (just like you can't find out what group you are in or the nickname that they give you).

that blows.

thanks though!

Is an instant messaging contact person also a person that shows only a mobile phone number? Or is that something else. Because all the stupid phone numbers in my Messenger make me confused .