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Need advice about my situation please by misstam on 05-14-2011 at 11:51 AM
hello everyone! well where can i start...friday the 13th for me was indeed what the myth says it to be, nothing but bad luck! I am currently working a 9-5 job which i like but i feel bored and confused about whether i want to do something else, or just not work in general, lol...like that is possible! so basically, i have been absorbed with having a baby, my own baby, with someone i know and want to be with. Evidently, he doesnt have a clue that i want to have a baby and i'm sure if he knew, he would run for the hills, the sea and maybe the end of the world if he could find it (Boing 
) so getting straight to the point...does one have a baby without him knowing, or slowly live my boring, meaningless life before i do something even more outrageously stupid?!
BTW i don't want any reasons about how unfair it is to put a man through this...bla bla bla...no one was saying it was unfair when i was cheated on and hurt by other men, so im doing what I want now...not anyone else!
RE: Need advice about my situation please by Discrate on 05-14-2011 at 01:09 PM
lol
RE: Need advice about my situation please by misstam on 05-14-2011 at 03:39 PM
glad this could make you laugh 
RE: Need advice about my situation please by Discrate on 05-15-2011 at 01:08 AM
So you basically want to have a baby without your boyfriend knowing? This is most likely a troll but ill answer anyway.
1. Your boyfriend will find out 2. It's the stupidest idea ever, do you have no morals?
If you were my gf and you secretly were having my baby, i would probably run you down with my car to kill you and the baby.
Just sayin'
RE: Need advice about my situation please by CookieRevised on 05-15-2011 at 10:50 AM
quote:errr... yeah... having morals ...
Originally posted by Discrate
do you have no morals?
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If you were my gf and you secretly were having my baby, i would probably run you down with my car to kill you and the baby.
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misstam,
Discrate is right though, forget for a minute about your selfish act of wanting a baby (you tell it in the same way like you go out and buy that beautiful ring you saw, just for you, taking care of 'number one'), and think about the child who will not know its father. And if you do tell who it is, think about how he/she would feel knowing he/she was unwanted.
And what if the roles were reversed and someone is having a baby from you without your consent? How would you feel?
Having a child is not something you go and buy just for the sake of having it or for the sake of doing what you want. Aka: you do not do it to take 'revenge' because you were hurt before, or even as a tool to fix a relationship, or to feel 'better' like some valium pill.
If you do want to have a baby you need to talk about it with your partner, period.
RE: Need advice about my situation please by Jacksonville on 07-14-2011 at 12:43 PM
quote:
Originally posted by misstam
hello everyone! well where can i start...friday the 13th for me was indeed what the myth says it to be, nothing but bad luck! I am currently working a 9-5 job which i like but i feel bored and confused about whether i want to do something else, or just not work in general, lol...like that is possible! so basically, i have been absorbed with having a baby, my own baby, with someone i know and want to be with. Evidently, he doesnt have a clue that i want to have a baby and i'm sure if he knew, he would run for the hills, the sea and maybe the end of the world if he could find it (Boing
BTW i don't want any reasons about how unfair it is to put a man through this...bla bla bla...no one was saying it was unfair when i was cheated on and hurt by other men, so im doing what I want now...not anyone else!
You should answer 2 questions only - do you want to have a baby and do you want to stay with your boyfriend?
And if all the answers are positive - you know what to do.
RE: Need advice about my situation please by Spunky on 07-14-2011 at 06:40 PM
quote:
Originally posted by CookieRevised
errr... yeah... having morals ...
Beat me to it
RE: Need advice about my situation please by BSTF on 09-03-2011 at 10:44 AM
Doesnt matter if you've been cheated on before. Yeah shit happens. Men did it, but not this man. you can't put everyone else's mistakes on his shoulders, you know? So if you're considering having a baby, go to a sperm bank and get pregnant...
RE: Need advice about my situation please by Chrono on 09-05-2011 at 04:17 AM
quote:how on earth is that even possible? she's female, you know
Originally posted by CookieRevised
And what if the roles were reversed and someone is having a baby from you without your consent? How would you feel?
lolIn all seriousness: misstam, you need a psychologist
And what cookie said
RE: Need advice about my situation please by CookieRevised on 09-05-2011 at 04:24 AM
quote:How it is possible* doesn't matter, it is the principle I was talking about.
Originally posted by Chrono
quote:how on earth is that even possible? she's female, you know
Originally posted by CookieRevised
And what if the roles were reversed and someone is having a baby from you without your consent? How would you feel?
*though there are ways for that matter
RE: Need advice about my situation please by paperless on 09-21-2011 at 07:27 PM
quote:
Originally posted by misstam
no one was saying it was unfair when i was cheated on and hurt by other men, so im doing what I want now...not anyone else!
And that's his fault how? What you want to do is dishonest and downright creepy. I'm hoping he keeps his wits about him and doesn't trust you'll be taking the pill or something.
RE: Need advice about my situation please by matty on 09-21-2011 at 07:36 PM
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