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RE: Parental Control & Chat Logging - child can override!!??
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I personally think spying on your children is a losing propostion.  If they don't feel that they can confide in you now, how will they feel after they find out your spying on them?  They will find out.  If they are computer savvy, they will eventually detect it or you will confront them with something you found while snooping.  Here is a pretty good article detailing the problems and consequences of spying on your children.  How would you feel if your boss, spouse, children, etc... were spying on you?  I am sure they could come up with a lot of valid reasons why they were doing it.  "I wanted to make sure he/she wasn't stealing from me" or "I wanted to make sure he/she wasn't cheating on me" or "I wanted to make sure my parents weren't spying on me."

Also, a lot of keylogger and spyware vendors are not the most reputable companies in the world.  Be careful that you aren't the one that is getting spied upon.  I have written an article on spyware that you may find helpful.

Good luck!
i completly agree with that, + that article
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RE: Parental Control & Chat Logging - child can override!!??
In response to newbiesecurity and NiteMare:

Chookers has put it nicely:
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There is a fair degree of trust between my children and I but as I know only too well, children don't always realise when it is in their best interests to tell you things.

Though this doesn't mean you should spy on your kids to see if they "make mistakes" like smoking a cigarette or drink a beer in the pub. That's of a whole different order.

What is being of concearn here is the safety of the kid, and even 15 years olds don't always know what is safe for them, even if there is 100% trust and whatever between them and the parents.
It wouldn't be the first time that a child is lurded into something via a chat.

Again, this isn't about spying on your kid to see if they "secretly" are going to the local mall instead of to school or whatever.

But it is true that there is a fine line between spying on your kid just to know if they will make their homework and checking who your kid is talking to in case something bad might happen. But that doesn't mean all "spying" like this is by definition wrong or bad and thus not everything should be dealed with in the same way.

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I guess every parent needs to do what they feel is right for them. And nobody knows their own children better than a mother

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