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O.P. Birthing Partner [Now had the baby!]
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My mum is due to have her baby in 4 days but we think it's gunna be earlier, we have a codeword for when she goes into labour so I know to go to her house, "gaylord focker" (don't ask).

I have been put down to be her birthing partner (to be there for the birth). I've watched a birthing video but it was a bit weird.

I know there are a few daddys and mums in the community.

So I was just wondering if you have any tips for me when I'm in there/leading up to the birth. Like how to keep myself and mum calm, how to cope with the screaming etc :P

Thanks.

This post was edited on 05-07-2009 at 07:25 AM by Vimto.
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RE: Birthing Partner
You arent going to call the baby Gaylord are you? :(
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RE: Birthing Partner
Don't panic. :p

I mean, really, as long as the surroundings don't go negative, I doubt your mum will.

Either way, she's had you so I'm pretty sure she's not going to find it anywhere near as challenging as you probably will. :p
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RE: Birthing Partner
Simple:
  • Do not freak out.
  • Forget about the blood.
  • Remember that your mother will be weak after the birth.
  • Keep saying: "It's coming!" if it's not a cesarian.
  • Good luck!
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RE: Birthing Partner
http://shoutbox.menthix.net/showthread.php?tid=90190
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either way, good luck!
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RE: Birthing Partner
i've seen a woman give birth, the worst thing you can do is faint :p
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RE: Birthing Partner
Don't expect too much blood or to see the waters break. It's quite rare for floods of water to come out and sanitary towels are usually kept close by to soak up the blood after the show.

You will probably be sworn at a bit and told to generally leave her alone, but just stay by her side.

Expect to have to go to the toilet with her (and expect some mess on the bed) as she most likely won't be able to make it by herself and mid-wives will be backwards and forwards a lot of the time. Also, she'll probably get really hot so expect to see a naked mother :p

Don't panic if there are complications. My son's heart beat started dropping and had to be pulled out. Forceps didn't work so they had to use a ventouse. The baby came out blue, cord around it's neck and not breathing. At this time there were about 8 people in the room (me, mother-in-law, girlfriend and the rest nurses). The fact is they are all professionals and know what they are doing. The most important thing you can do in that situation is to reassure your mom (and yourself) that everything is ok.

I would prepare some sandwiches and some bottles of pop (Loads of water for your mom too, as well as some cooling spray if you can). I was in hospital for around 15 hours, you may be in a lot longer...

If your she struggles towards the end, you may need to assist the mid-wives by pushing your mom's shoulder up off the bed when she is pushing.

I would recommend watching the baby coming out (if you're comfortable with it). I know it was the best moment of my life

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RE: Birthing Partner
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Originally posted by Vimto
we have a codeword for when she goes into labour so I know to go to her house, "gaylord focker" (don't ask).

why not "i'm in labour"
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RE: Birthing Partner
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Don't expect too much blood or to see the waters break.
My friend became an uncle today, and he said when he went to see the mother and baby, the mother was covered in blood and shit (as in poo) and she had a massive back ache. I think yours went relatively well :P
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RE: Birthing Partner
Wow I never want to see someone give birth.
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