Does File Transfer Plus detect your external IP address (that is shown in a transfer request) correctly? If not, look at the Connection settings. Probably, you'll have to 'detect you IP automatically'. If it still doesn't work, you can workaround the problem by enabling 'passive mode', but then your contacts must be able to send you files in normal mode.
Look at the thread
http://shoutbox.menthix.net/showthread.php?tid=29489 for more info...