Shoutbox

im not sure where to download this but its the program that allows you to see whos clicked and open your box to start a convo and when theyve closed it. can anyone drop a direct link

That is possible in one way, if you disable your Display picture (refer: http://shoutbox.menthix.net/showthread.php?tid=45687), although you will lose your capability of using Display Pictures.

Anyways, no way to do that with a Display picture, cause of the protocolo (refer: http://shoutbox.menthix.net/showthread.php?tid=39350).

To download the open convo checker, it's listed here: http://shoutbox.menthix.net/showthread.php?tid=28166

There's still no notifier for Messenger 7 yet, but Cookie has a list of addons/plugins and links. Perhaps Messenger Discovery X supports it now, it's been released quite recently.

It's not 100% accurate. The user must interpret the alert himself and come up to a judgement whether it was whichever one.. .