if you used tabserv, and want your friend to use the same tabs, tell him to run the patch and when insert email page comes up, tell hime to enter your email.
thats how you 2 would get the same tabs, ive done it with a few other peoples emails to see their tabs
edit: didnt read your post clear enough but it could still work, just make a tab using tabserv, theres instructions on the site, then just add your own tab to your list and do what i said above
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