Shoutbox

Messenger version 8.0
Messenger Plus Live 4.01.0.240
Windows XP Prs SP2

Normally I wouldnt care but its my main contact and more and more problems are happening all the time.  It only ever effects this contact.  Problems didnt even disappear after a clean windows reinstall

Problem 1
Contact will sign in but still appear offline on my list.  The only reason I know they are there is due to sound notification.  Signing out and back in usually fixes

Problem 2
Contact will send me an offline message and if I am truely logged off i will get the fist offline message as an email (sometimes the 2 lines) but all other online messages come through when I sign into messenger.  (cant screenshot if needed

Problem 3
All the messenger plus options are disabled (greyed out) when i right click the contacts name.  Only option selectable is copy email to clipboard.

Problem 4
At times talking to each other the emails will not come through then flood through at once

Problem 5
Contact today appearred offline and online at the same time.  That is, both in the online and offline list

There is more issues but will give you an idea of the problems I'm having.
I'm not having any other problems with any other contact

What I have tried to resolve:
Clean window reinstall (wasnt to fix this issue)
Clean install of messenger live and plus
Both us deleting and readding each other
Reduced the length of sound notification

My believe hunch is might be related to sound notification when she signs in but pretty sure have had this off before and still had the same problems.  I therefore have deleted all my sound notifications for next time they come on.

Is anyone aware of these issues or heard of them before.  Its driving me nuts

I do have one other suspicion it maybe.  I just thought of it then and can see why how it may effect the shortcuts to open chat logs etc but not the other stuff

I do talk to her occasionally through another address and the shortcuts to plus when i right click her name work fine on that.

Is there any suggestions on how to resolve so my main email has the shortcuts?

Thanks