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So, Being a complete geek, I need some advice, Mostly for future encounters.


A waitress was flirting with me the other night. I being the complete geek that I was didnt notice till one of the other people at our table pointed it out. Now, What should I have done?

well... was she hot? errr...  well.... was she?

Now...remember that the lady was a waitress....and they need to work for  those tips...

@ Omar

Do you know her well? Do you know her at all? Get to know her, talk to her frequently and be-friend her. If you already know her quite well, ask her out or even just go for a walk with her after she's finished her shift. Take it slow, and don't jump at the fact that she likes you, but rather play it cool. I mean do you like her? If so then 'go' for it You have something to gain, but nothing to loose.. (in a matter of speaking) lol
If you dont go to that place oftern then get her number.

What should you have done? Nothing Just played it cool and talked to her when she came over, ask her some questions.. but dont use a pick up line lol

Anyways gd luck


Edit: oo.. almost forgot, smile at her when she looks at you..  it never fails

go there again when she is waitressing, and if she still is into you, she will want to serve you

tips :
always ask her questions
do not use bad body language, body language means more then looks or personality becuase your body language subconsciencely gives the other person the best impression of you.
that is a reason why those 3 minute dates work


good body language:

• make sure there are no barriers between you and her (your arms crossed etc)
  
•   Eye contact – look at the person the majority of the time., except when you are about to laugh, then cover your face (but make sure she can see your smile from under your hands. make sure u dont do this for longer then say 3 seconds. and never twice. this gives her the impression that your slitely imbarressed and very into her.
  
• always relax your speach, where blurrey speach may make her smile, it also makes her think that your unconfortable around her.
  be slow, relaxed, use educated words (i doubt when she drops you coffee mug i think she would rather you not shout ' IMFAO ' out .
  
• Keep still – don't fidget, rock back and forth, play with hair or clothes. but it can be good if she plays with her hair and keeps eye contact with you....but if she dont keep eye contact shes bored
  
• Personal space – it is hard to talk when you are 10 feet apart, but you do not want to be 6 inches apart either. Generally, 2-3 feet is a comfortable distance
  
•   Posture – sitting up straight or even leaning toward her lets her know you are interested. When you slouch, it is not showing good manners and it tells her that you are more interested in relaxing or maybe falling asleep than listening to her.

but it realy all depends on your mental state

if u like her, go see her, engage in convosation
becuase she might be turned off that you didnt return the flirting

who knows.

good luck

And don't forget kids, you can buy "How to get a girl in 300 easy steps" by Stigmata from September 25th in store near you!


Just be yourself But show interest.. 

It will make you even more nervous if you fill your head with things to do/not to do.. but yea, take into consideration what Stigmata said.. i guess

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* Stigmata gives Sk3tch deadly looks....

300 pfft....

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Originally posted by Stigmata
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* Stigmata gives Sk3tch deadly looks....


300 pfft....

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Well.. better when giving advice not to list things out because it sounds like a chore.. and no one likes that.

Just making a point lol

Be careful when she says something to examine what she has said, I won't give the girl's name but this happened...
Girl: My hand's cold
Me: Really? *holds girl's hand*
Girl *looks at me strangely*: er...why are you doing that
Me: That wasn't a line to hold my hand was it?
Girl: No...
Me *goes red and stops holding her hand*

In reality she was complaining that her hand was cold, but it wasn't a line...so check everything she says to you that could be flirting ...oh and everything worked out fine with that girl btw

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Originally posted by wj


A waitress was flirting with me the other night. I being the complete geek that I was didnt notice till one of the other people at our table pointed it out. Now, What should I have done?

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This sounds a bit cliché you sure it happened?

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Originally posted by wj
Mostly for future encounters.

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Mostly? Future?
Get back there as quick as possible and order food like you've never ordered before!!!

oh, yeah, and those tips (if they come natural!) are also good

All I can say is don't be false at all! Be who you are If she is flirting with you, then she probably likets you for who you are, not a false you, keep that in mind