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I'm reposting this here, as for one reason, it is a serious subject, and my other thread about it got deleted because of arguements, and also, I want people to reply with actual thought tbh, and would like to know how others who have been through similar situations, feel, and we can share experiences, and act like a community. If you have other family situations, how do you handle them? What is your advice for others? This thread is not for petty arguements.



Here's my story, anyway:

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Originally posted by me On Friday 2nd August
Well, we had to go to court today (2nd of august). At the end of may, my Dad hit my Mum with a hard backed book, which is obviously, assualt. So, she had him arrested. And he hasn't been back since. Anyway, we got an injunction on him, etc.

Anyway, we've had a lot of trouble for months with him, since he got assualted himself 5 years ago, caused damage to the frontal temperal lobe, (something like that). And when he came off the medication after a few years, he started going paranoid really. Thought everyone was out to get him, and that he was perfect. Me, Mum and my brother couldn't laugh without getting told off. So after about 18 months of living under horrid conditions, this happened, and now he's gone. We have had to leave the house one time, another time he had to leave for a night then came back the next morning with his parents, screaming abuse at us, etc. He refused to believe anything was wrong with him, and that it was us who had the problem. He even found it funny when my Mum went into hospital in March, and almost died on the way there. She's had diabetes since and should be having an operation soon-ish.

The night he got arrested, he locked my brother outta the house, me and my Mum were locked in, I was upstairs, kinda crying, then my Mum was walking through the hall, and he came up behind her and hit her on the back with a hard book. She then came up and told me to call the police. When the police came, they had a chat, it was hard to persuade my Dad to open the door, but he did. When the policewoman was reading him his rights, he started shouting at her, and then he tried to push the three of them (two policemen, one policewoman), out of the house, and then they had to get him down on the floor and he struggled a lot, but they managed to get him away. Other little things happened, but I won't write them.

So my Mum gave evidence at my Dad's assualt trial today. She was really nervous, but things seemed to go okay. I didn't actually go into the court room with her, but apparently my Dad's defense lawyer was a dick... My brother had to give evidence suddenly as well, but that's alright.
We have to wait until Monday to hear the outcome, but i'm sure it will be okay.
Oh yeah, forgot to add that Mum's been getting a divorce set up and everything, so that should go through soon.
I dislike my father... He always drank like a fish and smoked like a chimney... My Mum gave up smoking, but my Dad never did. He was almost always on the verge of drunk. He once called me a little whore... Odd, seeming as I have a boyfriend, rarely go out, and don't wear mini skirts and loads of make-up and revealing tops, and then he says on the divorce petition that he wants to see me... Well no way...

Sorry for the life story thing, but anyway...

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News from today:

My dad was found "not guilty" due to "lack of evidence". Apparently the bruise and lump on my mums back wasn't important. Anyways, my mum is gonna get an injunction served on him to keep him away from us. This has made me, mum and my brother all feel angry, and vindictive. I definetely will not be seeing my father ever again. I can't believe that justice is so crap. T_T


Share your experiences and problems with family life, or just show support. Please do NOT argue.


Admins/mods, if you wanna move this, or split any part of it, feel free too, I just thought it would be a nice thread to have.