yeah..
well.. i decided to disable firewall and norton anti virus and now the problem is another..
i get a popup message box saying: "You needa newer version of Macromedia Flash Player to send or recieve winks. Do you want to upgrade Flash Player now?" i clicked yes and firefox poped up with this link
http://messenger.msn.com/flash/?mkt=pt-pt&version=$VERSION$ ... there says: When you can see the kiss below, you're ready to send and recieve winks..
the problem was that it didnt show up so i tried with Internet explorer, and i got the security warning asking if i wanned to install.. i installed and now the winks work.. thank god..
because it seemed that upgrading on macromedia site didnt work with the winks thing..
Thank you to all for your help!