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Originally posted by xtremescy
Hi all! please help me. i search for days through the whole forum and have not found a solution to it.
i realize that after i add someone and check-up on them; message plus feature>Contact Information; "You are not in this contact's list"
i dontknow why isit so, but when i asked my friend on the other side, they told me that they had me in their list and i appear online. i checked the Contact List Cleanup & Privacy, negative too. they're aint there.
but the weird thing is that if they ADD me, this problem dont happen; "You are in this contact's list". why is that so?
I add them; "You are not in this contact's list"
They add me; "You are in this contact's list"
same goes to the Contact List Cleanup & Privacy option.
please help! this is really getting on my nerve as i use msn alot =(
thankyou.
Dispite what has been said so far in this thread, such behaviour can be quite normal and nothing is wrong with the servers!
Please search forums.
For example, if your contact (the one you've added) has
"only people on my allow list can see my status" disabled than it would explain everything you told us. Nothing weird or wrong about it.
Again, like I've said in many threads before, I'm not claiming there is nothing wrong with the Reverse Listing, but quite
a lot of the so called problems and "wierd" things that people report are in fact perfect logic behaviours and no bugs at all.
The thing is that apparently not many people know how all those lists and those options in Messenger actually work with eachother and quite often simply state that "There is a problem with the Reverse List or servers". While in fact there are perfect logic explainations for them depending on what the user _and_ the contact has set as options.
Not to mention that problems with the Reverse List can also be caused by tampering with the Messenger files. Lately, a lot of people try to trick the unsupported versions of Messenger to work again, because they
"don't like the latest version". One of the major results is that their Contact Lists and other lists are behaving in unexpected ways. And this will not only influence themselfs, but also their contacts!!!! So even if you didn't alter anything in the Messenger files, it might be that your contact has, and thus you will experience problems too with that contact on your lists.
And to make matters worse, sometimes simply re-installing Messenger over an altered version does not solve those problems either. You explicitly must remove all data on your hard disk regarding Messenger (thus contact caches for example). And quite often, you and your contact must also remove eachother from all the lists to fix faulty contact lists on the server (faulty because they were syncronized from an altered Messenger).
So, you see, quite a lot of issues exist with this. And in many cases it has nothing todo with a server problem at all! But all todo with a user problem who has either altered messenger, or either doesn't quite understand how those lists and options in Messenger work (which is no surprising though, it indeed is not very straithforward).
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